Weekend update

  
  So much has happened this week! Geoff and I had originally planned on attending an adoption conference in Durham this week. However, we were asked to meet with a girl who is needing placement so we decided to forgo our trip and meet with her. She will be placed with us this weekend and officially staying with us on Wednesday! 

We have also been using the time to get the girls rooms ready. I love a good DIY and my husband is home so I thought it would be a perfect time to take down all of the popcorn ceiling in the girls rooms. The project wasn’t nearly as much work as I had originally thought. AND I had help! 

  
   

Oh yea Hadley started walking this past week. She’s on the move and growing so much. I can’t believe her birthday is in ONE MONTH! This year has flown by!

  
  

The next few weeks will be chaos and busyness but I’m so excited. 

Please pray for our family and the oficial transition as foster parents.

Cheers to change!

  

  

Favorite Moments of the Month

Favorite February Moments

I realize that it is now March but I’ve been busy enjoying my LAST week off before going back to work. I’m sad but I feel ready to go back….I think….

Anyways here are my favorite moments from last month….

1. Hadley had her first smiles. 

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2. Geoff had an interview for a new job (found out he got the job today)! 

3. Geoff and I had our tradition of making funfetti cake for our birthday’s.

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4. Going out to breakfast for my birthday (I LOVE breakfast)

5. Getting back to running and working out

6. Staying inside during the various snowfalls

7. Going on a “fun” date to the shooting range and leaving in pure fear

8. Finishing the book, “Keep it Shut” by Karen Ehman

9. Starting the book “The Gospel of Ruth” by Carolyn Custis James

10. Hadley started sleeping through the night

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11. Buying items for my cube at work in an attempt to be ready to go back to work

12. Hadley took her road trip trip to Nana and Papa’s house

and last but definitely not least

13. Starting the journey to finding my biological family

Looking forward to the memorable moments of March!

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Sunday Supper

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Tonight we enjoyed a new simple recipe, homemade chicken fajitas on whole wheat tortillas with arugula and chard salads with homemade broccoli sprouts (yes we made them homemade from seeds in a mason jar)!

The meal took me about twenty minutes to put together and a half hour to cook. I got the recipe from Budget Bytes, a great site for easy, delicious and CHEAP meals.

The Fajitas

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The Salad

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Enjoy your snowy Sunday night fellow Hoosiers!

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Finding the answer to why

whyI have always been a “why” person. Most kids constantly ask the “why” question and eventually grow out of this phase. I never grew out of the “why” question (Thank God for my patient parents). I guess who I am as a “why” person stems from where I began.

I am adopted.

Being adopted is always a great conversation starter. And being the most socially awkward person ever, this is always my default. For example, whenever I am meeting new people and am told to introduce myself and say something interesting I always say “I am adopted”. The conversation usually shifts to “Do you know your parents?”, “Do you want to meet your family?”, “Is it hard to be adopted/Are your glad that your adopted?”.

Number-1-blog “Yes, I do know who my parents. Their names are Dale and Debby. They are the most loving and patient people I know. And no, I do not know my BIOLOGICAL parents. My adoption is closed and I know very little about my biological family.”

*In Indiana all formal adoptions prior to 1993 were closed adoptions.

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“I have a family, I grew up with them in Greenwood, Indiana. I love my family. I do have a strong interest in meeting my BIOLOGICAL family. I was told that I have two brothers and I would love to meet them. I am very interested in exploring another part of who I am.”

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“I do not find it difficult to be adopted. I do not think about it everyday, but it is a part of who I am. When I was a teenager I had strong feelings of resentment about my adoption. I was bitter to everyone around me. I felt that a part of me had been taken but I did not know anything about that part. Since I came to know the Lord I have a redefined understanding of                            adoption. I can see the deeply engrained love and grace that is found in the                        actions of adoption.”

Back to the WHY 

Because I am adopted I have always been swayed to ask “why”. I have always have an extreme curiosity to know a different side of myself. In the psychology classes I took in college we would always go over twin studies and adoption studies. The studies would show the similarities between the family members even with having never known each other. These topics in class would always get me thinking about why I do the things I do. My curiosity to ask why also prompted me to desire to work with people and help them to answer their “why” questions. So I went to school for social work, and I learned to have an extreme love for research.

So why explain my love for the question “why” and my adoption story?

I have started my journey of attempting to locate and communicate with my biological family.

In Indiana at the age of 21 any adoptee can legally search for their biological family. Why 21? Who knows?!

I have always wanted to bein this journey but the timing was never right until recently. Now I have a child and I am married and I am settled into my life. I am content with where I am and I would not change a thing. The timing finally feels right.

The Journey begins…

Two weeks ago I submitted my information to the Indiana Adoption Registry hoping that my family had also registered. I got a letter in return stating that there was no match but that I could hire a confidential informant (CI) to help find my family. The letter listed the names and phone numbers of the CI’s in Indiana. So I googled confidential informant in Indiana and the name Jill Freeman popped up, she was on the list in the letter. When I looked her up I found out that she was part of Kirsh and Kirshthe adoption agency I was adopted through.

From there I sent an e-mail to Jill and explained my situation and that I was wanted to reconnect with my biological family. She responded the very next day and told me the steps in the process, they were so easy. I called her and gave her my information and she went somewhere in the office and located my file! She told me that she had my file and my biological mothers information. She had it in her hand! I was floored and amazed, everything felt so surreal.

Today Jill called me and told me that she had reached out to my biological mom. She said that her son had answered and that she was not home but would call back. OMG I have a brother?! Everything seems so close and so surreal. This journey is not over and has only just begun….

And now I wait

I do not know what I will say if I am given the opportunity. I have no clue where to begin and I have so much anxiety about it all. I know that God’s plan was for me to be adopted, and I am beyond thankful. He wanted for me to be raised by amazing parents who love me unconditionally to the moon and back. I have hope that I will be able to thank my biological mom for her decision and tell her all that she gave me.

I am praying that I will meet her and my BROTHER! (As an only child this is mind blowing). And I pray that I will finally find out the answers to my many “why” questions.

Thanks for reading, I’ll keep you updated on this new and exciting journey!

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Your All I Need

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It’s Geoffs birthday today! It’s also another Sunday and that means going to church.

On Sunday’s I wake up early, shower, get ready, get breakfast and head out to church. Church is a deep breath, a warm embrace and a cold splash of water for my soul.

On the days that I think I have it all I am dunked in the cold water of truth and reminded that Christ is all I need. On these days of cold water I am thankful.

” If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.” Colossians 3:1-4

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Let it snow

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Today I woke up to find many inches of snow on the ground outside. I LOVE snow! Here’s why…

1. It’s the perfect reason to stay inside binge on Netflix, drink hot coco, and snuggle on the couch.

2. I can curl up in my favorite corner chair and read a great book while watching the peaceful snowfall.

3. Make my most favorite time consuming recipe…then watch more Netflix.

4. Snow is peaceful and calm and its makes me want to slow down and appreciate the time that has been given to me.

Enjoy your snow day Hoosiers!

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Keep it quiet

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Sometimes it’s better to not say anything at all and just enjoy the silence. Awkward silences do not have to be awkward. I’ve enjoyed many different comments since having Hadley. Here are a few of my favorites…enjoy!

“Oh she’s so cute I think il steal her!”

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“Oh she has red hair…are you ok with that?”

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“I would just take her while she’s young then put her in foster care when she’s a teenager.”

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“She’s just the tiniest thing I’ve ever seen…do you feed her?”

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That’s all for now…tune in soon for more fun quotation gems!

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